by Don Laird, NCC, LPC
With all the chaos happening around us, the idea of living authentically and with meaning is more relevant than ever. Existentialism, a philosophical framework that encourages us to confront the raw reality of our existence, teaches us that meaning is not something handed to us but something we create through our choices, actions, and relationships. To live existentially and authentically is to embrace our freedom, take responsibility for our decisions, and shape a life that resonates with who we truly are. If you’re ready to dive deeper into this journey, here are five ways to start living authentically with meaning.
1. Embrace Your Freedom and Responsibility
At the heart of existentialism is the idea of radical freedom — the notion that we are free to make choices in our lives, but with this freedom comes responsibility. You are not bound by a fixed fate or script handed to you by society, family, or history. You have the power to choose how to live your life.
However, this freedom comes with an essential responsibility: you must own your choices. This means acknowledging that you are the one who is responsible for the direction of your life. Whether it’s your career, your relationships, or your passions, take ownership of your decisions. Recognize that while life can sometimes seem uncertain or unpredictable, you have the power to shape it. Start by making small, conscious choices in your daily life, whether that’s how you spend your time, who you surround yourself with, or how you respond to challenges. Accepting responsibility for these choices fosters a sense of empowerment and authenticity.
2. Be Honest About Your Own Existence
Authenticity begins with self-awareness. To live authentically, you need to be brutally honest with yourself about who you are and what you desire. This means stripping away the roles or labels that society or others have imposed upon you and connecting with your true self.
Existentialism encourages us to examine our lives deeply — to question the things we take for granted, like cultural norms, social expectations, and inherited beliefs. Are you living a life based on your true values, or are you simply following a path laid out by someone else? Take time to reflect on your thoughts and feelings. Ask yourself deep questions like: What do I truly want from life? What re my fears? What would I do if I knew I had no limitations? This kind of introspection will help you discover your authentic desires and aspirations.
3. Live in the Present Moment
Existentialists believe that life is fleeting, and the present moment is all we truly have. By focusing on the now, we liberate ourselves from the endless cycle of past regrets and future anxieties. Embracing the present allows us to find meaning in the simple, everyday experiences.
To live existentially, practice mindfulness. Engage with the world around you in a full, direct way. Savor the moments, whether it’s enjoying a cup of coffee, taking a walk, or having a conversation with a friend. Life’s meaning isn’t something you find in the distant future; it’s created right now, in each passing moment. Start incorporating mindfulness practices into your daily routine. This could be as simple as focusing on your breath for a few minutes each day or giving your full attention (presence) to the tasks you’re doing or the people you engage with.
4. Pursue What Brings You Passion and Purpose
One of the most essential components of living authentically is aligning your life with your passions. Existentialism is not about passively waiting for meaning to arrive; it’s about actively creating meaning through our actions. To do this, we must identify what excites us, what sparks our curiosity, and what makes us feel alive. Where and what is your true north?
The key is to pursue activities that align with your deeper sense of purpose — those that feel meaningful and fulfilling on a profound level. This doesn’t necessarily mean a grand career change; it could be investing more time in hobbies, exploring new interests, or taking up projects that align with your values. Make a list of the things you are passionate about. Then, take at least one small step toward incorporating one of these passions into your life every week. Whether it’s joining a creative group, traveling to new places, or dedicating time to personal growth, these actions will help you lead a life filled with purpose.
5. Cultivate Deep and Meaningful Relationships
Our connections with others can provide a profound source of meaning, growth, and authenticity. However, it’s crucial that these relationships are based on honesty and mutual respect, rather than societal expectations or superficial connections. Cultivating relationships that challenge, inspire, and nurture you is a vital part of living authentically. Invest time in relationships that bring you joy and growth. Have open, honest conversations with the people you care about. Practice vulnerability and authenticity in your interactions, and seek out others who share similar values and a desire for deeper connection.
The Journey to Existential Well-Being and Authenticity
Living authentically and existentially isn’t a destination, but a continuous journey. It requires conscious effort, self-awareness, and a willingness to face the complexities of existence head-on. By embracing your freedom, being honest with yourself, living in the present, pursuing what lights you up, and cultivating meaningful relationships, you can begin to shape a life filled with authenticity and purpose.
Remember, authenticity isn’t about fitting into a mold; it’s about embracing your uniqueness, your freedom, and your ability to create meaning in a world that is, at its core, uncertain. Start small, but start today — your authentic life is waiting for you. Contact me today (LINK) about my existential therapy or coaching services.
